People who are abusive are not always mean to everyone around them. It's the reason that people struggle to leave abusive marriages and relationships. It is the reason people struggle to believe that a friend or coworker could be abusive when someone accuses them because they see the nice side of the abuser. My mother learned her art of narcissism from her mother. I believe that my grandmother learned her art of narcissism from her mother. My father had a violent father and abusive mother. Both of them had abusive parents. But anyone outside of the family who knew any of my family members thought they were something wonderful. I remember as a child going with my paternal grandfather to the gas station to fill up his pickup. He was so cordial and kind and I remember the guy working at the station telling me I had the nicest grandfather and I was lucky girl. I remember being confused because I had seen how my grandfather treated my mother and father, and it wasn't kind a...