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Dear You,

It's good to have you back. I am excited to share with you. I am hopeful that the things I have experienced and the things I have learned will be of some benefit to you or someone you know.

As I have shared in my earlier post, I have been through alot and I have learned a lot. And I recognize that we are all in this together. I recognize that I did not travail my road alone.

I am a believer of God and I believe that he strategically placed people along my path that he knew would offer the exact support, validation, empowerment and sometimes just the right amount of 'humble pie' I needed.

I often talk to my kids about their "why". We all have a "why" about the things we do. Some are just more productive "why's" than others.

What is your "why"?

Why do you want to read my blog? What are you hoping to gain? Education? Validation? Empowerment? Distraction?

Despite my intentions with each post I write you will only get what you came for.

Maybe that sounds a little tacky, as we say in the south, but it is truth. And it doesn't just apply to my blog. It applies to everything you read or seek out.

What is your "why"? Are you searching? If you are, what are you searching for? And if you find it what will you do with it? Will you internalize and act on the information you receive?

I can share with you everything I have learned but where that takes you is up to you.

If you want to be distracted. I get it. Sometimes you just don't want to think and reading helps - even if it is stories about survival. Just make sure you don't get stuck on repeat in 'distraction' mode.

The same goes for empowerment and motivation. Both are very good things to be seeking. Sometimes though us Type A personalities don't know when to distract ourselves and not think for a minute - and we need to - we must.

Moderation in all things. Be aware and conscious of your motivations. Be honest with yourself about what you are seeking and why you are seeking it. Be forthright and direct with yourself about what you are avoiding and why you are avoiding it.

A path to healing isn't about being perfect, on time or even being right. It is about raw honesty with yourself. How we can ever expect honesty and integrity from another person when we do not honor it within ourselves? Healing always starts with you.

You take care of you and in turn you will be prepared to set the boundaries and expectations that will continue to help keep you emotionally healthy.

Until next time. GO. FIGHT. WIN.

-Draé




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