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Me too.

So I saw a post tonight where someone was mentioning how dumb they thought this “me too” thing was. Even now as I type I am trying to take some deep breathes….

I like that women are saying “me too”. I like that the Internet is flooded with “me too” and I really don’t care who is bothered by it.

1 in 5 women or girls are sexually assaulted all day every single day.

And the saddest part isn’t just the abuse it is the complete lack of care, concern and compassion from other women.

I saw a comment on the post I mentioned above that said “who hasn’t”.

Really?!?!?!

That’s your response to the very disturbing and very real statistics of sexual assault and abuse.

“Who hasn’t” implies that somehow you are stronger because you don’t need to report or talk about what happened to you or someone you love.

As women we need this movement. We need to be more vocal about what has happened and is happening and how emotionally damaging it is.

Harassment is not a joke. Women don’t need to accept that men are just going to say what they are going to say or do what they will do because they are men. Men need to know that we as women are done and we will not tolerate it anymore.

Abuse is real. Rape and assault are real. And the impact it has on a woman is too real. The healing process is long and hard and as women we have an opportunity to come together and lift one another and empower each other.

Speak!!!! Speak freely and speak up and speak often about what has happened. Talk about it. A LOT! And while you are healing also empower yourself. Learn how to defend yourself when attempts are made, not just physically but verbally. Learn the warning signs of a potential perpetrator.

I am a survivor. I was sexually abuse by my father and my uncle and for years and I put up with inexcusable behavior from men because I did not know I had a voice.


To you who are just finding your voice I say SPEAK UP!!! Share! Talk about it and surround yourself with those who will not only understand you but who will empower you.

GO.FIGHT.WIN.

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